I feel like its so hard to find cool places to talk to people online these days. Everyone is either in their super niche communities where its very easy to get seen as an outsider or are in hyper ironic big communities with no genuine connections. Like i just find it so hard to find anywhere online that i can talk to other seriously and be a genuine person with no mask. As ive lost online friends over the years this thought as become a lot more pervasive to me, just that it seems to be hard to find places to makes new friends online as an adult. Idk if anyone else feels the same but if so feel free to respond.

Unless you're a nazi or a racist, get a hobby. Just the process of learning something (literally anything) will force you to interact with people. At first by learning, then by comparing and finally by teaching. Almost by accident, you'll be surrounded by like minded people you get along with

this is more for the younger folk but sport clubs like soccer are insanely inclusive infact you don't even have to be good, just train with them, for the older peeps here lessons any classes like drawing very fun and easy to socialize in

make your own community, like your own discord server, invite one or two people who seem interesting once in a while then they will invite people and have to adjust to your community.

Just the process of learning something (literally anything) will force you to interact with people.

This is not true though. I learned Japanese, programming, a bunch of card games, and playing the piano without every interacting with anyone, purely web searches and practice. You underestimate how far one can go when you really don't want to talk to anyone, ever, at all.

clearly you dont enjoy to be alone but it kinda seems like you arent interested in being social either. like... to experience a genuine connection, you have to accept expressing yourself sincerely in a popular space and being met with most likely judgment and disapproval but hopefully at least one person would recognize you for being genuine and there's a connection. or, with a niche community, similarly by showing up and being an outsider who has values that align with the space, that has a vested interest in the space, you will be rewarded for bringing something new to the space.
if everywhere you go smells like shit...

plus anyways like there's forums and umm webrings and idk maybe you could try a MUD or something. like maybe you could just try reading blogs until you find one you want to reply to and then email the blogger or message them on whatever social. correct me if i'm wrong but i think that's a large part of the reason blogs exist.

if you're not sure where to start try maybe the denpa webring (find it on n0's site) or idk like wildwild.directory

genuine connection is out there, i believe in you.