>>3 imagine seeing someone spill their soul into a text and being so self absorbed that you feel the need to make it about yourself
Language and the way you speak is extremely complex, i agree that most people don’t really care to use language like that, and irl i have found that whenever i try to explain how i feel about such “trivial” topics people around me rarely actually pay attention to that. but i truly agree, one thing i would add is that from personal experience the amount you are interested in someone cannot be fully explained with quantitative methods, how much you are interested in someone and therefore how impactful their actions are, verbal and nonverbal, is based on how much you feel a certain way about them. i know people who i don’t find interesting/i don’t find that attractive/have no orthological reason to actually care about that influence me to an extreme extent. each day i get closer to god, quantitively speaking the idea that there is a force that makes you “love” someone that has nothing to do with anything about them is crazy