Are romantic relationships really that good and important? Both normies and autists seem to agree that having a girlfriend or boyfriend fixes all of your problems, albeit for different reasons. Is the meme true? Or is it a psyop?
Ive never been in a romantic relationship, so I dont know.

Who in the world believes that it fixes all of your problems?

they don't think it fixes any problems. They just want you to be too busy dealing with the bullshit of being in a relationship to complain about the horror of existing at all. Then they will tell you to get married. not because it fixes anything but because you have too much practice with the bullshit of semicasual relationships. Then after marraige they will tell you to have children. Again not because it fixes anything. Then they will tell you you need to hold it together untill the kids are adults. By then you are in so deep you have no choice but to keep on the path they've laid out. And in that way the engine keeps turning. and so it will be your turn to tell kids to get a relationship. To shut them up about the horror of existance. Because you know it is shit, and there's nothing you can do about it. May as well make others miserable the same way you were made miserable.

autists seem to agree that having a girlfriend or boyfriend fixes all of your problems

Maybe some. I seem to have spawned with the monk blend of aspergers. In other words, while I still have biological cravings for physical intimacy with women, the effort required to actually enter into a romantic relationship with one is simply too prohibitive for me. I'm almost entirely certain I will die without ever having had sexual intercourse or a romantic relationship, and this does not bother me. If it mattered to me and I had sufficient motivation, I could do it. But I don't care for it, so I wont. I am also an anti-natalist, to the degree that I find the idea of non-reproductive sex to be abhorrent. It's not a psyop, it entirely depends upon the individual. I'm sure for most people they would indeed suffer greatly without sex and romantic relationships.

tldr: find more based autists to converse with

I don't think they're the most important thing ever but it's nice i suppose i stopped really actively seeking relations a while ago (be romantic or just like regular social relations) the process of searching for these things that i didn't really feel much need for myself was quite tiring. I am relationship though and we both have the view of how the like "social media image" of a relationship absolutely abhorrent. I think it can be good to be in a relationship but I find how it's painted in our modern lives disgusting. I don't need to be flaunting my partner as part of my image nor do I need to be in every facet of her life as the way we see it it's a personal thing. i don't know about any of that sexual stuff though were both asexual.

having a partner wont fix all your problems though really nothing can besides yourself someone supportive can help for sure but really no one can do it for you (the image that it will is a scam or cope by people in situation-ships)

>>5
prob be better to say like toxic relationships not situationships but boht prob apply whatever

romance is nice but people are too concerned with the idea of romance and being with someone rather than actually connecting with someone else
so you end up with a lot of people together who really shouldn't be lol
and this also makes the search for a partner really shitty

When I've expressed desire to be in one, already partnered up people have almost unanimously said "Don't bother, it's not worth it". Chances are, these are the unhappy ones, but how many people are unhappy in marriages, relationships ?? And how many lie when they say they are, but aren't ? Not sure it's also applicable to say that "Those who are happy, you won't hear from because they're the ones who it's working for". Seeing how a lot end in divorce, I'm not sure how much of that is people thinking there's something better out there for them, or if they're messing up in human ways that are inevitable.

Relationships, and friendships, haven't been worth it for me for the most part. It seems barely knowing someone to not see their glaring flaws, while also enough about them to know they're safe and don't show any signs of hurting me, is a happy medium I've yet to find other than in surface level friendships. It doesn't seem to work that way for a lifelong mate.

>>8
Do you feel the same way about online friends, too? I've been attending a new church for six months now. I can definitely second the "barely knowing someone" stuff.

>>9 I don't have online friends. I have in person friends who I see occasionally, and we've met a happy medium of meeting once a month or so for various activities. We catch up over a coffee, or an activity like shooting pool. It's enough socialization to keep me satisfied. I also do speak to a few people at a local bar, and that also serves a satisfying purpose of enjoyment around music and stuff. The closest thing I have to online friends was when I was in a discord server, but they weren't from where I live, so meeting up wasn't doable. But as for not knowing these people well, and it being surface level, yes, that was the case. But it was a wholesome fun server, and I enjoyed the conversations. I didn't stay on there long enough to consider them friends like the ones I meet irl. I think it could have gone that way eventually, though, because they were a great set of people.

I think you have to do it once and get it out of your system. After that's over you stop caring, especially as you get older. At least from a male perspective. Sex has nothing to do with it, that alone can't be worth a relationship from any rational POV. If you are planning to have children that's a bit different.

Genuine human connection nowadays is impossible

>>12
not really if you aren't aren't a loser worried about it

>>11
I liked a girl when I was eleven and twelve. I messaged her for a while, then simply got sick of having this pressure to interact with another human in a performative way. I have had no interest in pursuing anything since then.

The last time I was attracted to a girl was like 3 years ago. I haven't been attracted to a guy in nearly a decade. I don't really care at this point. Sexual desires are a pain and I'm happy to be free of them.