When I've expressed desire to be in one, already partnered up people have almost unanimously said "Don't bother, it's not worth it". Chances are, these are the unhappy ones, but how many people are unhappy in marriages, relationships ?? And how many lie when they say they are, but aren't ? Not sure it's also applicable to say that "Those who are happy, you won't hear from because they're the ones who it's working for". Seeing how a lot end in divorce, I'm not sure how much of that is people thinking there's something better out there for them, or if they're messing up in human ways that are inevitable.

Relationships, and friendships, haven't been worth it for me for the most part. It seems barely knowing someone to not see their glaring flaws, while also enough about them to know they're safe and don't show any signs of hurting me, is a happy medium I've yet to find other than in surface level friendships. It doesn't seem to work that way for a lifelong mate.