>>302 "To mature is to learn how to cope." Immaturity manifests itself as anti-social behavior whereas one aspect of maturity is prosociality. By saying "learning how to cope" I mean learning how to cope in individually healthy and socially non-transgressive ways, or transgressive ways that lead to development and not aimless destruction. There is nothing wrong with coping. You're stretching your common sense thin and grasping at air to make a non-argument here. I explicitly call out bad ways of "coping", such as excuses and evasiveness, which fail to address the difficulty successfully, they fail to address it at all, they sideline it and postpone dealing with it--coping with it. If you have to learn how to do something you aren't doing it well and if you aren't coping well then are you coping at all? Calling out such behavior and moral disengagement is the opposite of demoralization and infantilizing. I want people to take moral responsibility and learn how to cope. My issue is with the term cope being co-opted to mean and to be associated exclusively with this kind of non-coping or maladaptive coping mechanisms and used as a thought-terminating cliche and zinger against people you simply don't like whether they exhibit these behaviors or not. What happens is it ends up potentially discouraging people en masse from actually developing coping mechanisms and growing or people getting dismissed and ridiculed for displaying even the slightest inkling of maturation. I am appalled by impoverished discourse like that. It's a major factor why the web is increasingly less and less comfy.
To add, it looks a bit silly when you're pointing fingers at normals while engaging in the exact same debauchery as them.