I feel that sometimes impulse gets in the way of properly getting to know one another, letting these impulses dictate your actions without properly understanding the point of view someone else is talking from, not opinions or literacy but experience, and how certain experiences will impact the way someone might see another person as an immediate threat or give into something like the halo effect, where you don’t know why you are being nice it just comes to you.

individuals around you can give you a positive feedback loop to control what you say, this is why it always feels like radicals are on a leash it’s because they are,
but the real way of understanding and successfully loving one another is by starting a conversation in a friendly manner not being reactionary and feeding into the loop of frenzy that someone might be feeding in you, calm yourself think about how you really want to be treated by others and act accordingly.